If you’ve ever sat in a therapy session and said, “You must think I’m crazy,” you are not alone.
In fact, I hear this all the time.
And I want to gently pull back the curtain on what’s actually going through your therapist’s mind in that moment – because I promise you, it’s not what you think.
Where That Thought Comes From
That sentence – “you must think I’m crazy” – usually isn’t about me (your therapist) at all.
It’s about:
- Fear of being judged
- Shame about your thoughts or behaviours
- Past experiences of being misunderstood or dismissed
- Internalized beliefs about what’s “normal” or “acceptable”
For many people, this fear started long before therapy. Maybe you were told you were “too much,” “too sensitive,” or that your feelings didn’t make sense. So now, even in a safe space, that old narrative shows up.
What I’m Actually Thinking
Let me reassure you – when you say this, my thoughts are much more like:
- “This makes so much sense given what you’ve been through.”
- “I’m really glad you told me this.”
- “There’s a lot of pain here – we can work with this.”
- “You’re being incredibly honest right now, and that matters.”
Not once have I ever thought, “wow, this person is crazy.”
Because in therapy, your thoughts and feelings don’t get labeled as “crazy” – they get understood in context.
Nothing You Say Is “Too Much”
Therapy is one of the few places where you get to:
- Say the thing you’ve never said out loud
- Admit the thought that scares you
- Explore the pattern you don’t fully understand yet
And instead of being judged, you’re met with curiosity.
That’s the work.
Why Saying It Out Loud Matters
When you say, “you must think I’m crazy,” something important is happening:
You’re getting close to a vulnerable truth.
And that’s often where real change begins.
Because the moment you risk being fully seen – and realize you’re still accepted – that’s when shame starts to loosen its grip.
Let’s Reframe It
Next time that thought pops up, try this instead:
“This feels hard to say, but I’m going to say it anyway.”
That shift alone can change how you experience the moment.
Final Thoughts
If you’ve ever worried that your therapist is judging you, I want you to hear this clearly:
You are not “too much.”
You are not “crazy.”
You are human—trying to make sense of your experiences.
And that’s exactly what therapy is for.